Friday, May 31, 2013

Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder [?]

As I promised, we have a guest post today. As I mentioned, Andrew and I spent the two years of our engagement in a long distance relationship. At times I forget how hard, lonesome, and crazy it was. So, here to help me today is my little brother. Roger Bellini is the author of the Si-Fi review blog, A Daily Dose of R&R and the coeditor for Neverland's Library.



Hey everyone,

My sister was kind enough to invite me to do a guest post about long distance relationships as I am currently involved in one. Her choice of titles, “Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder,” was an interesting choice but it’s a bit misleading. I’ll not claim to be an expert on the topic, but what I can do is give you my brutally honest opinion on the experience. If you’re involved in a similar type relationship I hope some of these feelings resonate with you; if not, well I’m wonderfully weird!

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First things first! There are some common misconceptions about being involved with long distance relationships. I’ll list a couple and tackle them one by one while sharing how my lovely girlfriend, Rebecca, and I have dealt with them.


Long distance relationships are not real.

Within the first day of having met, we quickly progressed from twitter to Facebook (This is not a way to start a relationship).  After Facebook, we went to skype and Facebook (This is also not a way to start a relationship). After that we spent several months conversing over webcam for hours on end nearly every night just spilling out interests, making faces at each other. We became friends as we learned about one another. It became evidently clear that there was a spark. We struggled with the first time voicing our feelings for each other as LDR’s (long distance relationships) often come with a negative connotation, but we knew at that time that there we didn’t want to be with anyone else. So, I eventually bit the bullet and asked her out. Awkward cheesiness ensued and I am pleased to say that the person I enjoy spending time with most decided to say “Yes.” To have a successful LDR, you need more than physical attraction; you need a partner who is also your closest friend (This is how a relationship is started).

If someone tells me that they cannot agree with that, then they might want to question their relationships before questioning mine! 


You can’t love someone you’re never with

I can bet you that I probably spend more time seeing my girlfriend and talking with her than a large majority of successful traditional relationships. I know, I know…  But that’s not the same!” You’re right, it’s not. I’d love for the chance to spend time in person rather than be separated by what feels like infinite distance. In fact, I’ve planned several such trips already. It’s important to see someone occasionally in person. For some people this time lapse may be longer than others, but physical contact is needed. We’re only human, and kisses are definitely better given in person.

Having a successful LDR is a lot like a military couple. You come to cherish the time you do have with the person you care about, and make a conscious effort to make it work when they’re not nearby. It’s not for everyone, but if you find a person that is worth the effort and you have the determination, then you take your shot.

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It’s important to communicate when in a LDR. Be prepared for unwarranted jealousy randomly creeping up on you. Get used to cuddling your pillow instead of a person at night. It’s not easy, it’s not fun. It’s not worth it to be involved with these relationships. They can be awful and miserable.

The absolute only reason you should be involved in this type of relationship is if THEY ARE WORTH IT!

I’ll vent, I’ll rage, I’ll stay up until the early hours in the morning, heck I’ll even pay to fly and visit…  Because, in my case, she is well worth this and more!



Thanks,

Roger Bellini 

I can sympathize with so many points he made. Are you in or have you ever been in a LDR? What did you find to be the hardest challenge? I must admit that it was one of the only things that kept Andrew and I "behaved" before our wedding day! Still, I often wish we had more time together over those two years. Its a bittersweet deal. I hope you have enjoyed this look into love and romance with my husband and I (as well as our guest blogger, Roger).

Looking Forward

Later this evening I will be posting a catch up post as well as introducing next month's theme (properly). I am looking forward to sharing so many things with you.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

The Whirlwind: Moving, Marriage, and Munchkin

Andrew and I's first year of marriage was one crazy event. We were married in January and the year whirlwinded around us. Before we were even married six months I found out I was pregnant. My son, Benjamin was born in December of our first year of marriage. We had to move out of our tiny apartment before his birth.. so that made it marriage, munchkin and moving all within one short year.

What was the craziest year of your marriage like? What is your favorite and least favorite memories of that year?

Its amazing what a year like that can do to bring you together. I know we grew so much in that one year. Although we have only been married three years now, we have the knowledge of life that comes from many more.

We now have two handsome boys in our life. Its a great blessing and a tiring struggle at times. I find myself at times wishing for the days prec-hildren. Yet, I know that I wouldn't do it any other way. For the missed sleep, missed date, and craziness... it was still worth it.

Marriage is a rough road. Its not for the week and willing to give up type. You must be strong. You must commit. You will fight, cry, struggle, and other times you will smile, grow, and make love. Its a balance and a gift. Its burden and a blessing. I wont lie and say we have it right or that we are always happy. However, I love is true and chosen. We wont give up on this thing called marriage, we are in it for life.

Tomorrow we will be hearing from my little brother, the author behind A Daily Dose of R&R about love and life in a long distance relationship. So please stop by. Also, check out his latest project: Neverland's Library Anthology

Out of his own mouth, "It's a fantasy anthology I started to raise money to go towards providing textbooks for children in need. We partnered with First Book, because they've been doing just that for years. Also, we assembled authors from several major publishers: Orbit, McMillan, Nightshade and more."

There is only a few hours left in his campaign, so check it out!

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Recommended Reading

I borrowed a computer just because I missed posting so badly. I just couldnt live without it another day. Beyound that, we have  so much more to cover this month and only just a few days left! I figured since we are not on my computer and I dont have my personal picture, today would be a good day to discuss the books I really found useful, interesting, and worth my time in relation to marriage. Pardon the pun!

I believe I mentioned that I spent a whole year focusing on romance. During that time I created quite a notebook full of books, articles, ideas, etc. on marriage. Below are a few books I read during that time.

10,000 ways to say I love you by Gregory J. P. Godek. You will never be able to say you have no idea again!

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It really helps you to know what your partner needs to feel loved and what you need for that matter.

Your time-starved marriage by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott. Arn't we are starved for time? Life keeps us so busy we may miss the romance!

As Long As We Both Shall Live by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham. There is some great relationship building things in this book.

I could probably go on for a long while with book ideas for you, but I think you would have a library card full already. If you have any other good reads on marriage please feel free to share with me by commenting below. I am always interested in learning more!


Sunday, May 26, 2013

Winter Wonderland Honeymoon

First, I need explain! This post shall be short and sweet because I am working on very limited time! My laptop charger recently went "ka-poot" and I am using its last minutes of battery power to share with you. This post will not include the normal fashion look and randomness I enjoy so much. However, I did want to recommend and share the location that Andrew and I spent our honeymoon at.

Cove Haven Pocono Resorts... I cant not say how much I loved it. They have great things for newly weds and old pros alike. You can enjoy many activities and luxuries including pools, hot tubs, fireplaces, and round beds in room, breakfast in bed, delightful dinning, and all sorts of entertainment. If you go during the winter you can snow-tube, ski, take a winter ride on a horse drawn carriage, even ice-skate. You have a selection other fun activities as well. Sports, rollerskating, archery, night clubs, musicians, comedians, and everything in between.

From the moment you arrive, they strive to make things perfect and enjoyable. I have daydreamed about it since our honeymoon. If you ever have a chance, I highly recommend it. So, if you are ever interested in taking a trip to Pennsylvania, make sure its to got there!

I will miss writing for the next few days. Please stop by and say hello! I can still get your comments on my phone. (Full posts are just too hard to manage.) I look forward to starting next months theme.... parenting and raising boys!

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Congratulations and Happy New Year!

Andrew and I got married on January 2nd of 2010. So we started our new life together in a brand new year as well. We kept with the New Year's theme for our wedding and planned a big, balloon filled party for our reception. My entire family is from the north, so we planned with them in mind. We had a full dinner, cocktails, and plenty of dancing. To this day we have people telling us that they have never been to a party so good. I had a very large wedding party, including a dear friend from overseas, family, and several gentleman. That was all on MY side. Rather than having a maid of honor, I had a man of honor. My little brother filled that role well.

I really enjoyed planning our wedding. I think I have a taste for party planning (and for feeling like a princess).  Here is a small look at our nuptials.

The ceremony


I apologize for being a missing for a few days. I've been overly tired. My children have been refusing to sleep. I will be happy the day when they do so again. Here is some of what you missed...

My Outfits




 All of these lovely outfits were made possible by Gwynnie Bee. Both dresses and the blouse were deliveries I have throughly enjoyed! I do think that the peplum dress is my favorite. I wish I had the extra money to purchase that one!

Since choosing the topic of marriage for this month, we have never struggled more. It saddens me sometimes when I think about how much we let life get in the way of our romance. I think this is true for all relationships, I only wish I had a way to repair it. All my years of research, books, movies, etc, have done me little good when I actually have to live it out. It reminds me that marriage is a two person job. Yes, marriage is a job. Its a choice and its work. Totally worth it, but still hard just the same. Love is a choice, and I plan to choose it for the rest of my life.



Sunday, May 19, 2013

Hourglass Romance

Making time for love has proven most difficult for my husband and I as of late. With children and schedules and stress, it seems that romance is the last thing on our mind. Many time we struggle to get good quality family time in with the kids. However, I know of another great blogger who discusses this issue (along with many others). Check out Engaged Marriage. He talks about dealing with busy lives, money, sex, and communication. I found him last year when my New Year's resolution was to make it the most romantic year of our life. I won't lie, I failed, but I learned so much!

What do you do to fit in romance in your own life? Do you have any tips for us (stressed out parents!)? Please feel free to share.

Yesterday was a very busy day with my family. We went to a local festival and a family birthday party. We missed naps, had on to run meals, and did a little bit of shopping. My kids had a good time, but both also had their moments of crying their eyes out. That's life, and I want to share it with you!

Saturday Fun






Shopping Finds!

Well we were out and about all day yesterday, I made several great purchases. Discounts abounded. Plus, you know how much I love to buy jewelry and accessories at festivals and craft shows!
 I got some great vintage and homemade costume jewelry at a museum gift shop. At $2 a piece I couldn't resist. On top is a bamboo bangle. I had to get it when it fit over my large hands. The large white pendant was so unique and fun or a vintage necklace. I also got the purple, homemade paper bead necklace to add to my purple collection. The other two necklaces (colorful and wood) are to help my wardrobe if I end up doing boho style this summer.
This fun little bad came from a booth that a boutique in my area called "She's International" had on display. I loved it instantly! I was going to buy it at its steal of a price of $20 but the long straps (hidden inside) were torn so I got it for a discounted price of $15! This lovely fish purse comes from Vietnam. I love to collect things from all over Asia so this was so ME!

Glam Bag


I mentioned a while back that I signed up for a subscription to the beauty product service called ipsy. This service allows you to get what they call a "Glam Bag" every month with 4-5 full size/travel size beauty products in it for $10. And as the name states, it comes in a free makeup bag. Believe me when I tell you, it is a steal. I received my first delivery and it was definitely worth it. I have some pictures to share it with you!


 The Glam Bag comes in a bright pink envelope! So fun! Not only does it it come with several great beauty products and a makeup bag, it also has coupons! So, if you love something you can get more! I wore the perfume and lipstick today. Wonderful products!





























My Outfit


Thanks to Gwynnie Bee I had something fun and new to wear today! I also got a new necklace from my mother, so I'm pretty excited!
This Lucie Lu dress was one of those chances I took since I don't have to keep it. Although it is kind of rocker, I wasn't overly fond of the dress. Don't get me wrong, it was comfortable and fun. If I had the fun rocker jewelry to go with it, maybe I would have liked it more. What's your thoughts?

Looking Forward


I'm sure you have realized that my guest post for this week hasn't happened yet. Getting two busy bloggers who also work full time together has been challenging. I do hope to get it to you soon (hopefully next week). Be on the lookout!

Friday, May 17, 2013

Oh la la...Sweet & Sexy

So, because of situations beyond my control I am skipping around some. Rather than continue to tell Andrew and I's love story, I decided I will take a break and discuss plus size lingerie. There are some lovely options out there and something for everyone. My husband and I had a good time looking over a few of my favorite sites to show you what we found. However, before I share all that "fun" with you I have a few outfits to share!

My Outfits

 Last week I really looked good! I got several great things from Gwynnie Bee that I loved. The first look is a floral pencil skirt by Kiyonna I got from them. The blouse and jewelry were my own. I got the blouse for Christmas. It was a great J C Penney find!
This American Rag jacket I'm wearing also came from Gwynnie Bee. I loved this one so much I bought it. I HAD to have it. The Asian floral design is so me! The rest of my wardrobe was pulled from my usual closet collection.













Although today's outfit sadly had no Gwynnie Bee in it, I think it looked lovely as well.

The blouse I got on clearance at Lane Bryant! I was so happy. I enjoy flowing, delicate looking clothing. I felt pretty and colorful all day! We did Kindergarten picture today as you can see!

Sweet and Sexy

Many curvy ladies have a hard time accepting their body and even harder time enjoying it. I have learned over the years in my marriage that I like rocking a sexy piece of lingerie. I also feel more romantic in a lacey little nighty. I wanted to share with you a range of some of what I found. Hopefully it will inspire you to break out a little something of your own!


Babydolls

Best Red Hot Baby Doll

Luscious in Lavender and Lace

Chemises


Compelling Liquid lame and lace chemise


Corsets and Bustiers

Appealing wild orchid bustier set


satin jacquard corset(My personal favorite corset)
Daisy embroidered basque Corset  
This was actually the corset I wore under my bridal gown (in white of course!)

The Everyday

Soft and comfy tank dress with lace back
super soft and sexy lace trim chemise


        Dare I add.... the play things?!





These can all be found on Hips and Curves.





If you are interested you can also find all the 50 Shades of Grey gear on Hips and Curves as well.

Other Naughties


Lace Quarter Cup bra

Thoughts from the man behind the blogger: My husband says since most of these were picked by him that other guys should approve.

Other sites you can find Lingerie include Torrid and Big Gals Lingerie. Have fun! 

Monday, May 13, 2013

Randomness, Romance, and Rumblings

Romance and Rumblings

Its been a while since I've posted on my theme of Romance. I have admit that we are struggling with the theme. You would think it should be easy to focus on such an important relationship, yet we both get caught up in life. This got me thinking about our past... I'm not just talking about the major events of our story together, I'm talking about the tiny details that have seemed to disappear with three years of marriage and two children. Sometimes it breaks my heart to see how different we have become.

Today I found myself people watching at the mall while my son played in the play area. I was suddenly a little jealous of the teens walking by. I miss the days of carelessly walking through the mall, holding Andrew's hand. I miss PDA. I miss the days of making out, late night conversations (that weren't fights), and gifts for no reason.


Does three years really change people this much? Do children do it? I even kind of miss the days were Andrew stared at me with obvious lust. Even your sex life changes. We never really had a honeymoon period. We had kids before the end of our first year. I spent out honeymoon period pregnant. Obviously not a turn on. Did we miss something or is the the way it is for everyone?

Here is my question: Do thinks ever go back to that? Do they become a new, better version of romance? OR, does romance die and marriage becomes about choosing love? Tell me, what do you think. I have read MANY books. I have tried at least a hundred methods to bring back that spark. Does hard times change one's whole relationship with their spouse or is it temporary?

I deeply love Andrew. I am aware of what we have to give up for our children. Still, I believe marriage is a gift. I desire to enjoy it for my entire lifetime. Please comment your thoughts below or if you wish to keep your thoughts private you can email me by looking at my contact information- here.

Randomness

Mother's day weekend did not turn out as planned. My husband got sick so we ended up having to cut our camping trip short. I spent mother's day doing what moms do- caring for their children and their (sick) husband. I did however get plenty of fun photos over the past few days I would love to share!

Camping


Our camp site

the kids first night


playing at the family center

stone mining


Making Mother's day flowers for Nanny


Benjamin learning how to play baseball from Grandpa







Dinner Time

Ben was a hoot at dinner time today so I just had to share.




My Outfit




 Two versions of my outfit today, with and without my coat. It was chilly this morning so I wanted to show how I rocked it both ways. Thank you to Gwynnie Bee for the Eloquii dress. The belt is also from Eloquii. I LOVE the obi belt style.









Looking Fashion Forward

I have been thinking about my fashion for summer!!! I usually pick a theme so I keep my shopping to a minimum. Not too long ago I did nautical which was a lot of fun. I made the who family join me. These are the options this year:

Boho   Look 1, Look 2, Look 3
Girly    Look 1, Look 2, Look 3
Rocker Look 1, Look 2, Look 3
Beachy Look 1, Look 2, Look 3

Please check out the links beside each of these to see how I might pull off the look. On the side of my page there will be a place to vote on your favorite!

I also wanted to announce I finally found myself a bathing suit. Now, don't be disappointed... its not a fatkini. However, its super hot for a one piece! I cant wait to reveal it!